Success and stuff

If my 24 year-old-self met my current self, I'm not sure what would happen. Besides the whole time paradox thing, I don't think we'd agree about writing decisions and what it means to be a successful writer.

Back then, I thought you had to do things in this order:

1. Get an agent
2. Get a book deal with a big 6 publisher
3. Success!

Self-publishing was a wasteland for talentless hacks -- reserved for weirdoes who had "book signings" at Barnes and Noble for their memoir about growing up in the suburbs of middle America. Thrilling!

I was a jerk back then.

But times are changing. Now self-pubbing isn't just easier than ever; it's actually possible to be successful when you do it. But many writers don't like to admit that. They want to sit on their high horses and claim their way is the only way. That's not only narrow sighted, but it also glosses over many problems with big publishing as it stands (more on that later).

Self-pubbing is one path to success. It's one way a writer can make a wonderful living for herself or himself. It's not the only way. It takes a lot of hard work, but it's comparable to the other paths. And the payoff can be just as big -- or bigger -- than going the traditional route.

However, people still say: "Well, he might have a book on the NY Times bestseller list, but he's just self-published."

I've done it. Maybe you have too. Take a minute and think about why you want to put down other writers for their choices. Does it affect you? Probably not. Are you jealous of their success? Disapproving? What makes you better than that self-pubbed writer?

Not every writer is going to make the decisions you would make, but that doesn't make them any less of a writer. I put a lot of work in my books/series. They are revised/edited by me (several times) and several beta readers in my online writing group.

I have writer friends who've made different choices than I have. One got a MFA. I have no desire to pursue one, but that was right for her and she deserves the success that comes with it. Another writer friend has an agent and just released a book of short stories through a small press. Did she work hard for that? Yes. Is she successful? Yes.

Every writer has a definition of success for themselves that might be different from my definition or yours. I want to build a big fan base and make tons of money. Self-pubbing gives me a better chance of doing that than traditional publishing, and I don't see it changing anytime soon.

This is my path to success. What's yours?

Coming out of the writing closet, so to speak

I write for a living -- I'm a professional writer, if you will. It's weird to say those words, much less type them. Wrapping my head around my job, although I've been doing it for about 4 years now, is still difficult.

Even harder since the last 8 months have been very different.

I freelanced for about 3 years. Basically, I wrote boring articles about computers or gardening and it paid the bills. And I got to work from home in my PJs. Life was good. Then the Google panda update hit and my cushy freelancing gigs dried up. So, as we started 2012, I was out of a job. Really. Totally unemployed. 

Now, I wasn't homeless. No. I had a savings account and grad student loans. I could find something new. I had too.

Then I stumbled on a ghostwriting gig. The pay was decent, and it came with a lot of creative freedom. While I dabbled in non-fiction and article writing to get by, fiction is my real passion. I jumped at the opportunity, but I had to learn how to write something I'd only ever penned in fanfiction before.

Okay. Deep breath. I can do this.

I write erotica and erotic romance. 

There. I said it. Secret out!

The ghostwriting gig paid more for erotic stories, so I wrote a few. Then I started reading forum posts and blogs about self-publishing. A lot of writers were making a lot of money doing what I was doing, only they got paid in royalties instead of an up-front ghostwriting fee.

Why wasn't I doing that?

Long story short (too late) I did/am. And it's the best decision I ever made in my entire life. 

So, that's why I started this blog. I'm not going to tell anyone my pen names (or my real name, although it's not really a secret considering I'm posting this on FB. Hi, friends from FB who chose to read!) But I do want to talk about my journey and decisions -- why I made them and how much I enjoy what I do. 

I'm the Indie Writer Girl, and I have a few things to say.